had to shut a bitch down today
This same crap has been happening to me with 3 guys. I wanna copy and paste this lol. Not really though, but I totally feel for this girl
I’ve seen this post a million times, almost have said something, and then backed out. But I can’t stand it anymore.
Let me first make it clear that I can understand why the girl was upset. While it’s meant with better intentions, “falling in love with someone” because you can imagine them being your perfect pixie geek girlfriend is just as objectifying as a guy who has a pinup model on his wall. You’re falling in love with the idea of her, not her. This is bad.
But her reaction to said guy? Also bad.
Let’s say one of Justin Bieber fans ran into him at a coffee shop, and he just so happened to be listening to her favorite song. She’s a bit immature, but she imagines that it’s fate and meant to be. So, despite being too timid to approach him, she gathers her courage and messages him.
She doesn’t want to come off like that “crazy stalker girlfriend” meme, but he was listening to her favorite song, for crying out loud. And what’s the worst that can happen? That he says no?
But the worst does happen. He messages her back. He calls her a bitch, a stalker. He says that she doesn’t really love him, she’s just a shallow brat who can take her little preteen fantasies somewhere else. She can tell herself that she doesn’t get dates because dudes are jerks, but it’s really because she’s a creep who tries to turn men into Edwards and Jacobs. After it’s said and done, he rags on to his friends about how “some chicks just can’t take a hint” and “she had it coming”.
Is he right? To some degree, yes. But is his response going to help the situation? No. It’s just going to make her cry for a night, hate “stupid boys” for a couple of weeks, read Katniss/Gale fanfiction for a few months, and then slowly fall back into the same trap.
Guys occasionally imagine girls as their “beautiful geek princesses”. Girls occasionally imagine guys as their “knights in shining white armor.” Both genders do this. Both with good intentions. Both with good intentions that screw things up.
And in the end, guys end up wondering why girls can’t be more like the girls in their video games, and girls end up wondering why guys can’t be more like Sam or Dean. Both completely missing the point.
If we stop blaming each other, maybe, just maybe, we can be friends and realize what the other person is actually like. There are always going to be toxic people who blame you when you don’t like them. But just because you’ve been hurt before, don’t automatically assume that’s always the case. If you do, you’re objectifying him as the villain the same way he’s objectifying you as his dream-girl.
Because even if you’re not his perfect pixie girlfriend, and he’s not your perfect knight/detective/misunderstood villain/tragic hero, you can still be friends. Or, you know, respect each other as human beings.
team free will (x)
Ah the feels
1. Frankenweenie (2012)
2. Corpse Bride (2005)
3. The Nightmare Before Christmas (1993)
IM NOT THE ONLY ONE WHO NOTICED THIS
I’ve been cheated my whole life.
"Every story has a beginning, a middle, and an end. Not necessarily in that order." - Tim Burton.
Oh my god this looks like a hipster post but it’s just the king of hell
not enough hipster galaxy overlay
there we go
Still not hipster enough, we need some profound and meaningless words on this.
Meaningless and profound enough?
Can someone tweet this to Mark…
didn’t we do this to bobby?
yes we did
someone tweet it
I didn’t choose the fandom life.
The fandom life broke into my house in the middle of the night and said “Dad’s on a hunting trip, and hasn’t been home in a few days.”
I didn’t choose the fandom life
the fandom life grabbed my hand and whispered, “Run.”
I didn’t choose the fandom life
The fandom life borrowed my phone and asked me “afghanistan or iraq?”
GUESS WHO FINALLY SAW THE HOBBIT
why is it always the weird stuff that gets reblogged
THE WALKING DEAD
Comic book characters and their TV series counterparts (part 1)
you dont just play the sims. you go on a sims binge for three days straight then put the game down for 5 months
I want someone to look at me the way I look at chocolate cake